The Comparison Trap
We’re all guilty of it, especially women. We look on Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Church, even our neighborhoods. The list goes on and on all we see is what we don’t have.
We see the mom who looks like she’s got it all together at church. She looks like she hasn’t had one kid and is dressed in the latest fashions. Her kids are perfectly dressed and so well behaved standing right beside her. Then there’s her husband who seems so attentive to her every need. He brings her a coffee from the cafe without her asking, how sweet. We stand there daydreaming wishing we were her as our kiddos run across the church platform screaming and grabbing the microphones. You look around for help from your husband and he’s on his phone playing a game. Ugh, why can’t I have her life!!!
But guess what, there’s someone watching you and wishing they had your life. It’s the single mom who has to work two jobs and her child goes to before school care, then to school then to after school care. When she picks her child up from after school care it’s drive thru for dinner for a quick bite to eat. Once they arrive home they try to get some homework done and a quick shower then it’s off to bed because their day begins at 5am. I could go on and on about who has what and who doesn’t have, but I won’t because I think you get the picture.
While the first lady seems like her life is perfect we have no idea what her life is like at home. She could be completely miserable and wishing she had the single moms life. We all have to learn to be content with what we’ve been given and then we will reap the benefit of more. And sometimes more is just being satisfied with what you have.
Try and remember this when you see everyone posting all the students they have and you only have one. Well guess what, it’s one more than the person that didn’t get hired. Trust me I feel the same way and I have to remind myself not to be envious or down on myself or even second guess if I’m good enough to be working for ZE. I would love to have more than six regulars and honestly I have no idea why I don’t but I’m not going to give up trying to get more students and I’m going to keep giving my all to those six regulars that I do have 😁
I hope you remember these things the next time you feel the urge to compare yourself. Remember your uniquely made, there’s no one else like you and your purpose is different from everyone else’s purpose.
Always find the positive,